Home Study Tuesday - So Nervous - Adoption.com Forums

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Originally Posted by sadieg I think my problem stems from the fact that we can't have children biologically, and I am afraid of this home study stopping us from being parents in ANY way, because we certainly can't afford 40,000 for an adoption.

So many of us have been right there with you! My family and friends kept telling us to relax, it would be fine... But I just kept thinking, you don't understand! They could say No! I have no logical reason on earth why they'd say no, but I know exactly zero about being home studied and getting chosen for placements, so how do I know how not to screw this up?? S.T.R.E.S.S.

On ours, they walked the house with the checklist and made sure it was done, asked us to tweak or correct a few minor things, but they were so nice about it. They treated us like we were new, not like they expected us to be experts already. Just like they should have.

Then they sat down with us and asked tons of questions. Many were from an obvious script of questions, some were just where the conversation went, but they all had to do with either relationships (childhood, current, spouse, friends, parents) or with stability (job, paying bills, health). It was more personal than I expected, and also more comfortable than I would have thought. Somehow it just seems okay to share all this in that environment. We just went with the advice we'd gotten to be very honest, and it served us well. They really nailed who we were, what we could and couldn't handle, and matched us beautifully. I almost had to laugh at exactly how well they'd outlined us in words in their section summations when I read the final home study.

They will say YES! You will be parents! Your kids are out there somewhere. Hugs, good vibes, and prayers going up for you and your DH!

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